Family is just accident.... They don’t mean to get on your nerves. They don’t even mean to be your family, they just are. ~Marsha Norman
When you irritate your little sister, she might ignore it for a while, but eventually she will lash back. If you irritate her enough, she may even kick you. But the worst is the silent treatment - whenever you try to talk to her, she snaps a mean comment or a dirty look at you. You could choose to take time and hope she will get over it, but she never really does. Instead, the jabs get sneakier and seem to come out of nowhere. Other family members take sides: "why is my cousin mad at me?"
Eventually you are completely miserable and unable to be around the family without pain. The only solution at this point is to work it out; find out what the problem is and do your best to solve it. Then try and mend the time spent at odds.
Injuries are very similar. Most of the time you do minor damage, your body repairs itself and you barely notice; maybe there's a sting of pain but you feel better the next day. For more serious injuries, you may be sore for a few days. You can choose to "fight through" or take some time to let it heal. Fighting through can cause compensation injuries (fights with other family members) or intensify your original injury. Taking time may reduce inflammation but it won't actually fix the original problem.
Ideally, first you determine:
What caused the injury?
- How did you get it?
- Why did you get it?
Then figure out how to make it hurt less:
- Reduce inflammation
Now you can focus on solving the problem:
- Where does it hurt?
- Is that spot the injury or just deferred pain?
- Do you have calcification causing additional pain?
- Do you have scar tissue adhesions?
- Do you have compensation injuries?
- What actually is the injury?
- How do I fix it?
- How do I prevent it in the future?
Sound like a lot of work...? Well, it is, and I can help...your family will thank you!